Frequently Asked Questions
So what actually happens on our sessions or dates?
This is a dating encounter, and a classic girlfriend experience (GFE) where we get to know each other, cuddle, share natural enjoyment and affection, sometimes share a meal, conversation, and follow our bodies in the present moment through two-way touch. I do not offer a service like massage, or guide you in any way. And this is a mutual and spontaneous encounter based on synchronicity and being a man courting a woman. We may do some breathing to drop into our bodies and open our hearts, smile and soften, and then follow our bodies’ subtle movements in a cocreation of mutual desire from there. I discuss more on our video call, and not over email. Anything that happens between two consenting adults is not negotiated, guaranteed, owed, or contracted for.
What happens if we do not have chemistry?
I tend to attract great people, and we can tell based on our intuition pretty quickly and respectfully on our video call if this is aligned. Also, I have a great personality, am attuned and down to earth. Most people like me, even reserved people. They say my voice is feminine and soothing and my personality is warm and kind.
What are your biggest turn offs and turn ons?
I have a no tolerance policy for entitlement. A woman opens when she is coaxed and watered, like a flower on its own time and intuition. This is actually what’s most natural, anything else is often partly inauthentic. Similarly I do not expect anything in particular of you during our time except for your authentic desire, and anything you offer of yourself to me is a gift.
What turns me on most is being attuned-to in the subtlety of the moment, while maintaining your natural instincts of desire for me—a dance that builds and speeds up on its own. I also enjoy being worshipped or explored first, as I can be shy to start, and find this usually inspires an aliveness in me to open more and want to naturally worship and explore you with vigor and gratitude.
Finally, I love a men who has humility. I have been in lots of communities—spiritual, social justice, traditional. And narcissism and ego are common everywhere. A true mark of someone becoming more conscious is they can realize both their inherent greatness and keep a beginner’s mind at the same time. They say The Fool is the wisest archetype of all, because he knows how much he doesn’t know and is always learning. Let’s learn from each other :) Self awareness and soft power are totally hot!
What if I am interested in seeing you, but I cannot afford it, am too busy, live too far or am otherwise not in a position to do so?
I am honored to hold your interest, and do not take it for granted. Your support of me nourishes me to write my book to support other women and the world. It also just makes me feel loved and liked and keeps me going. If you’d like to offer your generosity as a show of affection, I welcome both cash and physical gifts, and will have a wishlist up soon. My cash app is $novasweetheart. Thank you for your graciousness, I am deeply honored to inspire you!
Do you do kink?
My approach is that of a woman in her essence connecting with a man in his essence. I did kink for many years, and all sorts of role plays, including being dominant. They were very helpful for me to heal many areas and come to know myself more and ultimately, to a more natural state of presence. I no longer engage in planned roles, and instead I delight in the mystery of the present moment the absolute most. I find that when we let go of knowing, spontaneity emerges, and something more epic arises than our imaginations could have conjured. Also, there is less psychological healing projection, and just a more pure natural instinct, in my experience. While I do have an animalistic side that can come out in brief moments, it must arise out of spontaneity. Please do not ask me to be dominant for you, or to do a specific act, unless you are sharing a turn on with no expectation. (I do enjoy playing with our natural archetypal energies as they arise synchronistically together, usually more in our planned psychedelic experiences! Ask me about this!)
What if hurt feelings come up between us?
With such an open hearted connection, emotions are bound to occur. Usually it’s mostly joy and love and inspiration between us as we go on about our lives, and is epic. If something does come up, however, we can allow a natural care as we remain authentic to ourselves.
If something arises, it is usually as simple as waiting until we meet again and subtly sharing something that would feel better going forward at the beginning. I find my connections actually grow closer and warmer as a result and stay easeful. If needed, let’s chat on the phone but not in writing which lacks nuance. Usually, approaching things casually and unassumingly is key. And I care about your experience. :)
An aligned connection does not have hurt feelings often, and if that’s the case it may just be a mismatch. The ego finds things to be immediate and reactive, but the soul is patient and trusts that love and sweetness are the fabric of the garment. Let’s let it be easy!
Why do you do this work?
I was polyamorous for many years, after being married, as I explored myself and have had many lovers and partners of all kinds. I find people really enjoy being with me. And this work has been a very natural transition to finding value in my gifts.
This container for me creates a better relationship, with the most clarity where I feel genuinely grateful. There is something about a man providing for a woman that brings out a devotion in me. I am highly authentic, kind and present toward you. I feel ecstatic and alive. And I open up into my truest, feminine essence more and more this way. In a way I want all people to know this is possible—to date with devotional non-attachment in the present moment. Depth builds this way, paradoxically. It is what I trust most because it is honest. And it feels like we are being adults.
Something in my soul must be free to share my love and energy with the world, that goes deeper than the mind, and to be supported in that. I require full freedom of all my connections, a skill that comes hard earned, and I offer the same to you.
8. Is this real for you?
I require of this work that I am fully authentic at all times. I cannot perform, or a part of my soul will die. You get the true version of me that I have worked very hard to cultivate. I enjoy meeting every person because there is such a unique flavor of your personality that I will find charming. Because you are simply human. It is a joy and an honor to spend time with you. I believe I am more of a woman than a girl, and that this is the mystery most men seek. May my loving kindness, depth and authenticity be a healing balm for your soul, and permission your wildest, most alive pleasure and creation. May you know that you are deserving of this. And I pinch myself after every date where I remember the same. xx